Traditionally, this position is when you are on your back, with your legs up. It is, quite frankly, the way a bitch takes a strap on. You are in [...]]]> What’s holding you back? Are you afraid of giving yourself over completely? Do you want to miss out on the edge of fantasy?

What is Total Bitch Position

Traditionally, this position is when you are on your back, with your legs up. It is, quite frankly, the way a bitch takes a strap on. You are in the submissive/ missionary spot. A very untraditional place for a man… both metaphorically and in reality. Explore that side and eventually you will be asked to take the Total Bitch Position

What Total Bitch Position Means

Obviously like any other kinky sex thing – it can mean a variety of things. Since so much of our sexual behavior happens behind closed doors – people often come up with their own phrases or nuances. For me, the Total Bitch Position is more than just a sex position, it is a lifestyle. It is the undercurrent of a true sub. Knowing that you are safe and secure in your domme. With that safety and security in your pocket – you can release yourself from any fear and allow the domme total and complete control.

How to stay in Total Bitch Position

This too, is different for everyone. Some have the lifestyle of submission, others are not so fortunate. For many it is merely the mindset. The difference is that you take that mindset everywhere you go. Not to be a doormat, but a submissive. And oftentimes, only a sub to your specific dom. Others however take a different approach. Reach out to your partner and find the definition that works for you.

Where to go for Total Bitch Position Training

The question is where you can’t go. For a true sub, you can find a leader in anything or anyone. If you are looking for more structure consider seeking out the BDSM underworld of your neighborhood or get connected through various online kinky social networks. If you are a couple seeking definition – you can always call me or any other Mistress of LDW/Enchantrix. The information is out there – you just need to think about how you wish to receive it!

Kisses!

Holly

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Okay, so this post isn’t so much about where the strap on goes (which is rather obvious) but instead where in your house you can enjoy strap on play. Because let’s face it – if you are kinky enough for a strap on… you are beyond the bedroom.

For example… ever brace the back of the [...]]]> LOL!

Okay, so this post isn’t so much about where the strap on goes (which is rather obvious) but instead where in your house you can enjoy strap on play. Because let’s face it – if you are kinky enough for a strap on… you are beyond the bedroom.

For example… ever brace the back of the couch?  If not… put it on your to do list! The short one! You can either hold onto the couch with your hands or just lean your whole body against it. Depending on the profile of the couch you can bend over the back. Or, if you prefer (or your couch is up against a wall) just dig your hands deep between the cushions while facing the front of the couch… just remember to stick your ass up high!

Do you prefer the total bitch position? This is when you are on your back and taking it like a girl… only, instead of the traditional missionary your legs are up high and you are getting your ass pummeled. For this you can use my personal favorite – the kitchen table.

So don’t fear – there are many ways to enjoy your strap on outside the bedroom. Just remember… Empress Holly approves of your naughtiness! Just remember to take it slow and enjoy the scenary!

Kisses!

Holly

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The truth is… you can’t really get a lot done with strap on play without actual strap ons. And of course nobody wants to (or should even try) to leap from a pinky to a full on strap on. There has to be some middle ground. And thankfully [...]]]> Yup, that’s right… I am talking about toys.

The truth is… you can’t really get a lot done with strap on play without actual strap ons. And of course nobody wants to (or should even try) to leap from a pinky to a full on strap on. There has to be some middle ground. And thankfully there is a lot of it!

So how do you prep that sweet rosebud for some serious anal play? There are a variety of ways to prep yourself for strap on action.

The Household Method: This is by far the cheapest though in my estimation the most dangerous route of prepping that sweet ass. This is simply using household objects to increase your ability to take a strap on. This can start with a toothbrush, move up to a hairbrush… maybe a celery stalk until eventually you can get an english cucumber… a regular cucumber.. you get the idea. Each and every one of these methods includes tons and tons of LUBE but as you imagine because these objects are not made for this purpose you can easily hurt yourself or even worse… get objects stuck… which is embarrassing to say the least… and possibly dangerous.

The Butt Plug Method: The slowest but possibly the most effective way to prep your ass for deep and satisfying strap on play. This is just what it sounds like… using butt plugs. Some people use them for hours a day… moving up from smaller to larger butt plugs. And occasionally interspersing dildos for extra stretching.

The “Real Deal” Method: For those of you in a relationship with a patient cock… try the real deal. This is when you simply grin and bear it. By all means, get yourself nice and hot.. use lots of lube and stretch a bit with fingers first. But then… take the plunge. I highly suggest using the “spooning” position first as this is the least “pressure” you can put on the skin surrounding your ass. Eventually moving on to more advance positions. It also helps if you have a lot of different cocks to choose from… but for that dildos are perfect.

Use any or all of these methods and that hot ass of yours will be completely ready for my big strap on. Or you might just find that you enjoy the journey a whole lot more than you thought! So get out there and find what tickles your feather!

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I have been working with one client that *really* wanted to try strap on play but was mortified by the pain factor. And yes, there are plenty of things to be mortified about when it [...]]]> The truth is anal does not have to hurt, but it can. It really depends on your preference and the situation.

I have been working with one client that *really* wanted to try strap on play but was mortified by the pain factor. And yes, there are plenty of things to be mortified about when it comes to strap ons…pain being one of them.

The truth is, anal really shouldn’t hurt. Fantasy is fun and I am all for shoving my huge 9 inch strap on in your virgin ass, but for those of you truly considering strap on play – this is not the way it is intended.

Now, for those hardcore strap on enthusiasts this might be a wierd thing to hear a domme say. However, I am a sensual domme and have always towed the line that pleasure is pleasure and pain is pain. If you like pain we can do that – but the truth is we can do almost everything without it. Anal is one of those things.

There are many resources on the net if you are considering anal play. Lots of tips and tricks out there about diet and logical steps. I for one much more prefer the mental, aka mind fuck of strap on to the real thing.

For me strap on play is about a power struggle. You are giving all your power to me. You are laying at my feet and doing my bidding. As your domme I will protect you from harm, unless it is the pain that pleases me.

If you are contemplating strap on play in fantasy or real life, I would love to chat about it with you. We can do a few roleplays to flesh out what really gets you going.

If you are already a member of the strap on community and need a little rough play with a sensual domme, I am your girl! Don’t be confused by my sweetness! If it is your ass I want, I will take it. I will force you to your knees and make you suck my strap on until you gag. After that I will throw you over my couch and take that ass for all its worth.

Just like anything else I play with – strap on play can run the spectrum of sweet to nasty! Game on!

~Empress Holly~

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One, you are looking for strap on play in general and found this link through various sources…

Or Two, you are a devoted puppet of mine and want to see what else I have been up to…

Either way, I am very glad you dropped by!

Strapon Phonesex is incredibly [...]]]> There are two reasons you perusing my strap on blog…

One, you are looking for strap on play in general and found this link through various sources…

Or Two, you are a devoted puppet of mine and want to see what else I have been up to…

Either way, I am very glad you dropped by!

Strapon Phonesex is incredibly erotic. Shedding away gender roles and stupid bedroom taboos are always thrilling. More than that – I love to introduce people to the heart of their fantasy. I just wrote a post over at my main blog about erotic pleasures and so I have that in mind here as well.

Sometimes we are our own worst enemy, ya know? We worry about how people will view us, how our partner might change how they feel, etc. That’s exactly why my job is so fantastic. I just want to have fun! I just want you to have fun! Whether you decide to keep a long term mistress relationship with me or not, we can talk about anything you want.

I want to help you take as big as a strap on as you want. Or maybe you just want a pure fantasy session and don’t even have lube with you. That’s cool too! Again, no judgments – just fun!

So kick off the shackles and dive in. I have had a few regular clients lately mention they want to try a strap on session. In the many hours we have played in the past it never came up. That is so exciting to me. Just try it. See if it something that makes you twitch. What’s the worse that could happen? 

Here’s to hoping we play together very soon!

~Holly

For an erotic phone session with Empress Holly, 800-601-6975 Must be 18+Calls are $2.50 per minute with a 10 minute minimum
Discreetly billed to your credit card

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